“Intimacy is a big deal for my wife and me, but I was so sick before my surgery that intimacy really was not an option. We both were worried that having “a bag of poop” on my side would hinder spontaneity and romance. However, once I was feeling better after my surgery, my ostomy allowed us to be intimate again. I remember asking my wife if the bag bothered her, and she would reply, “Absolutely not! I love your bag because it kept you here!” I look at my ostomy as a gift and know that my life situation could be worse.
As for logistics, I wear a stealth belt every day and some nights, and I sometimes wear a simple ostomy wrap at night. Other times, I go “ostomy cover commando” and wear no cover of any kind. Each ostomate’s personal situation is different, and so will his or her approach to intimacy.”
- E.D., Male Ileostomate